Look, it’s the new year and it’s time for the new me. I’m definitely excited about getting back into the dating world but it’s also scary! I have soooo many questions about how it all works now. I mean, let’s face it, I haven’t been dating for 5 to 6 years (I was married). Things seem to have changed a lot since then!
For example, I often overhear people talking about having sex with a new partner within two weeks of the first date. Girl, call me old fashioned but that’s way too fast for me!
On the flip side, my divorce made me much more clear about who I am as a person and what I need in a life partner. I think that’ll help me in the world of dating. I also discovered that I’m a free spirit who needs the freedom to use my creativity. I need someone who is understanding of that.
Anyway despite my fear, I’m excited about the newness and the possibilities. Plus, I’ve always loved getting dolled up and making myself look nice for a night out on the town. I come to slay.
MY TIPS FOR YOU?
- Don’t worry about your list of things you MUST have in a man– it’s a trap. You’re not going to get everything you want. Just focus on someone you enjoy spending time with and build from there.
- Don’t listen to your friends who have been single for 5-6 years. Their lack of success does not have to mean that your dating life will be awful. Stay positive and be on the lookout for a new friend– not a new bae– because friendships can always turn into more.
- What are you looking to offer someone else? Women are often coached to give everything and expect nothing back, or the opposite: to get everything they can out of a man — both of these ideas can be damaging to a new relationship. What are YOU bringing to the table?